#32: What do you need to let go of?
This week I let go of a marriage.
🇪🇺 My Eurotrip has led me - through many glorious ups and excruciating downs- to the moment that I have been hoping to avoid: A divorce. It is much harder than I expected.
🤷♂️ If you’ve been following this blog the past 12 weeks, you know I have done the work! But isn’t it strange how we sometimes find it hard to let go of things that do not serve us?
What is it that you need to let go of that is no longer serving you? Trust me, there is always something.
Follow my journey. Get the gumption every Sunday.
🙋 Poll of The Week
Thanks for voting to keep this website last week. You saved me a ton of work that I thought I had to do. That does not mean it won’t happen, but you’ve helped me push it down my priority list.
I need your opinion on something else this week. I am working on setting up a data-driven health coaching business…
I have more credentials for that than as a writer (I am an ex-doctor, I am a data analyst, and I am a certified health coach), so I keep wondering if I should bring more of that side of me here, and add more research driven writing behind a paywall to support myself.
The concept is still tied to Gumption, in the sense that I would write for an audience that is motivated to go after what they want, but still want to maintain their health on their journey.
These are the kind of people I want to work with.
So today I ask you, is changing the direction of this blog from pure fiction to a more of health and wellness approach a good strategy?
💬 To elaborate please leave a comment, or simply reply to this email.
#31: Letting Go
On our search for gumption, we may encounter moments where we did not expect to let go of something.
In my case it is a relationship I worked so fucking hard to manifest. And now I have to work even harder, to undo my attachment to it.
In your case it maybe:
Our treacherous path towards meaning and purpose requires us to sometimes drop one thing for another. It is a key part of our development. In the hero’s journey and in every other story structure I have studied last year, the protagonist always has to give up something to get what they want.
Otherwise it is not a relatable story.
It is so hard to let go of things, people and ideas because it is not comfortable to do so. We naturally get attached.
But…the hero HAS to give up something in order to evolve.
So what is it that you need to let go of?
One idea I really like meditating on is this:
Imagine that your mind is a garden with many bright yellow, orange and purple flowers but is also infested with weeds that are growing beneath the surface.
These weeds are thoughts that are not yours, take a moment right now and take stock of what is underneath the surface.
Are there any weeds or ideas that are not serving you/ are not your own?
👨🌾 Time to take these fuckers out!
Let go. Get to work.
Thank me later.
💬 Let me know in the comments, or reply to this email.
Sunday Gratitude 🙏
👨👩👦👦 This one goes out to the most cliche and yet still underrated subject of gratitude: My family.
I thank my mom, dad, and Lina my sister for supporting me through both marriage and divorce, through a career as a doctor, and now through my aspirations as a writer.
If your family is still with you, how can gratitude shift what you don’t like about your relationship with them? How can it amplify what you love about them?
Family is one of the ultimate sources of gumption that one person may have, and I am grateful for their support, encouragement, and existence. Thank you Mom and Lina for reading this Sunday blog.
One day I will get dad to subscribe as well :D
The Artist’s Way ✍️
I have been doing them while traveling, and surprised by my consistency.
I journal therefore I am!
Last week I missed a connection in Istanbul, and after being really pissed at the airlines and going into a bit of an internal moment of despair, I found myself asking a question: Why do I need to spend 24 hours in Istanbul?
That one question shifted my whole being from frustration »» acceptance.
My artist date this week ended up being a spectacular and unexpected day at a Turkish Hammam and a spa which rejuvenated me after 3 days of partying.
Turns out I needed to be alone, massaged, and cleansed of toxins before carrying on with my journey.
⛲ Letting go is great for the soul! ⛲
Wrote a bunch of mediocre poems while on the road, but otherwise I have been offline, and taking it easy with my craft this week as I go through the motions of finalizing my separation.
Poem of the Week 🖋️
Here is a poem from my up and coming collection “An Ode to Heartbreak”.
Let go by Omar Shaker It is an energy drain, an opponent in a tug of war, that lives in your brain. You create false hopes, You project untrue dreams, You can't accept this new reality where what you yearned for is not yours. So it pulls harder, and bounds you by an invisible chord. A spider's web that surrounds you until you drown. Just cut it out, Trim that fat Slim that shady attachment style that sucks you in and holds you on a leash. Take these humongous, silver, and shiny scissors, and cut the damn thing! Let it wobble Let it shame you Let it tell you that you are half the person you never wanted to be! So just let go of your spirit vampire, and maybe then you’ll be free.
See you next Sunday
Thank you for continuing to share your journey and for asking thought-provoking questions, Omar. What do I need to let go of? Where do I start? For one thing--and I know this may sound trivial to some--I need to let go of my negative attitude toward wrinkles. I'm not kidding! This makes me think of Nora Ephron's hilarious take on this subject, "I Feel Bad About My Neck." At least I know I'm not alone. I will try to work on shifting my attitude this week. Wish me luck.
As for your question on the direction of your blog, which I love just as it is, I think you need to follow your heart. Instead of writing either/or, can you write both/and? What will feed your stomach as well as your soul? The only one who can tell you, is you.
Thanks as always for all you do. You sweeten my week and always give me something to appreciate and reflect on.
I am sorry for your pain. I cannot imagine how hard finalizing your divorce was for you. I do know that the end of a relationship, painful as it is and much as we fight it, can be a stepping stone to positive things if we're patient, resilient, and open enough. I predict this will be true for you, my friend. I look forward to hearing more next Sunday.
My friend! Or should I say “my trigger”. Thank you for always triggering me with your questions.
Letting go of old ways is my biggest challenge and I’ve committed to not give up on it. Today I find myself in a path in which I am given the opportunity to evolve and I’m looking for the strength I need to make it by acting differently. Go Agus!
PS: remember you have a whole team behind you these days. Go Omar!